Friday, April 25, 2014

On Throuples

I have been following the account of the female throuple in Massachusetts, 1/3 of which has been artificially inseminated and is with child. Robert George, not surprisingly, has as well. It is oft said, “ideas have consequences.” When (and if) society abandons its traditional belief in marriage as a conjugal bond, with its model of sexual complementarity, in favor of a concept of “marriage” as a form of sexual-romantic companionship or domestic partnership, then what possible standard could be identified for “restricting” marriage to two-person partnerships, as opposed to polyamorous sexual ensembles of three or more persons? (Have you seen the story of a woman who has “married” her dog)?
Proponents of the “new marriage” acknowledge that there is no reason not to further re-shape the institution of marriage to include multiple partner unions; to do this in their view is progress toward the ideal of equality and justice. Failure to do is unjust. Poly-couples and their offspring, they say, deserve the same legal recognition, support, and protection as conventionally married families and the children born into them. For those of us who think that marriage is the union of one man and one woman, we are bigots, unjust, or worse (hate criminals)?  To my way of thinking and believing, Jennifer Rohrback Morse  on her Facebook page has it right:
Let me make a prediction. I predict that within five years of the birth of the baby this relationship will be in complete shambles. Every adult should know that you cannot predict how a mother will feel when she receives her baby into her arms. I have read many disputed lesbian custody cases. Reading between the lines, the mothers cannot accept another woman calling her child their own or that her child will call somebody else "mommy." The mother thinks she is the one and only mother. She did not expect how difficult it would be to share the care of her child with another woman. The law will take sides with the women who are not related to the baby against the interests of the biological mother. This thing will break down within five years. Much to the detriment of the child.