Sunday, July 21, 2013

Good News: At Nation's Colleges 4 in 10 Students Either Virgins or Had Intercourse with Only One Person

How often has this scene occur ed in the experience of young women of late:

Catherine, a Penn senior, had found hooking up in college to be a continual source of heartbreak. She had repeatedly made the mistake of thinking that because she was sleeping with someone, they were in a relationship, only to be disabused when the guy broke things off abruptly. 

This experience called to mind a scenario I came across when researching my chapter on libido, which took place as follows:

After a recent talk given by Naomi Wolf, sharing her findings on pornography’s effect on relations between male and female, Ms. Wolf inquired of a young man who had been in the audience why he thought it necessary to move to sexual activity early in the acquaintance:
Why have sex right away? Things are always a little tense and uncomfortable when you just start seeing someone. I prefer to have sex right away just to get it over with. You know it’s going to happen anyway, and it gets rid of the tension.
“Isn’t the tension kind of fun?” Wolf asked. “Doesn’t that also get rid of the mystery?”
Mystery? I don’t know what you’re talking about. Sex has no mystery.”

  It appears the law of nature is increasingly being discovered on campuses across the United States, as I have mentioned before in these pages, the latest example of which can be found in a heartening piece from the First Things blog.